The Tyranny of Shoulds: Why Happiness is Not a Choice

TLDRAnxiety rates are rising because our brains are wired for survival, not happiness. The gap between our goals and reality leads to anxiety. Denying or judging anxiety backfires. Facing anxiety with compassion and love is key. Gratitude is helpful, but external-focused. Happiness requires accepting and understanding ourselves.

Key insights

💡Anxiety is not the enemy; it signals a need for change.

🌟Denying or judging anxiety only makes it worse.

🧠Our brains are wired for survival, not happiness.

🙏Gratitude is helpful, but it focuses on external factors.

💖Facing anxiety with compassion and love allows us to understand and make progress.

Q&A

Why are anxiety rates rising?

Anxiety rates are rising because our brains are wired for survival, not happiness. The gap between our goals and reality leads to anxiety.

What is the best way to deal with anxiety?

The best way to deal with anxiety is to face it with compassion and love. Denying or judging anxiety only makes it worse.

Why can't we just choose to be happy?

Our brains are wired for survival, not happiness. Happiness requires accepting and understanding ourselves.

Is gratitude helpful in reducing anxiety?

Gratitude is helpful, but it focuses on external factors. It's important to also have self-compassion and understanding.

How can we make progress in dealing with anxiety?

Facing anxiety with compassion and love allows us to understand ourselves better and make progress.

Timestamped Summary

00:00Introduction: Anxiety and happiness

02:59Our brains are wired for survival, not happiness

06:34The gap between goals and reality leads to anxiety

10:03Denying or judging anxiety only makes it worse

12:56Gratitude is helpful, but it focuses on external factors