🔥Desire comes from a space of distance and novelty, while love is about closeness and security
💑Couples are asking partners to fulfill roles that entire communities used to provide
🌟Radiance and confidence in partner are major turn-ons in desire
💡Desire requires imagination, playfulness, curiosity, and mystery
💥Erotic intelligence is the cultivation of imagination and the poetics of sex
Why does good sex fade in long-term relationships?
—Good sex often fades in long-term relationships as couples struggle to reconcile their need for security and adventure, and the connection between love and desire
What sustains desire in a committed relationship?
—Desire in a committed relationship is sustained through the reconciliation of the couples' need for security and adventure, and by cultivating imagination, playfulness, and novelty
What are the main turn-ons in desire?
—The main turn-ons in desire are seeing your partner radiant and confident, being drawn to them when they are away and reconnecting with their mystique
What is erotic intelligence?
—Erotic intelligence is the cultivation of imagination, playfulness, curiosity, and mystery in one's own desires and in their expression within a relationship
Why is desire selfish?
—Desire is selfish in the sense that it requires individuals to stay connected to their own desires and needs while in a relationship, allowing for the space to explore their own identity and express their desires
00:17Explore why good sex often fades in long-term relationships and the connection between love and desire
02:11Reconciling the need for security and adventure is key to sustaining desire in a committed relationship
04:21Radiance and confidence in a partner are major turn-ons in desire
09:20Explore the mystical definition of eroticism and the concept of erotic intelligence
13:58The paradox between love and desire and the importance of staying connected to one's own desires
