The Fine Art of Discernment: Making Better Choices in Relationships

💡Chemistry and connection can be dangerous words as they can lead to trauma bonding in narcissistic relationships.

🔍Loss is optional - as humans, we can choose to love and connect despite the risk of loss and pain.

🚦Discernment means slowing down and being deliberate in our relationships, rather than rushing into decisions.

🚫We often make excuses for toxic behavior from our partners, but we should be discerning about who we let into our lives.

💔Narcissistic relationships can erode our trust in ourselves, but healing and finding healthy connections is possible.

How can I heal from narcissistic abuse and establish healthier boundaries?

—Healing from narcissistic abuse takes time and self-reflection. It's crucial to recognize signs of abuse, establish and enforce boundaries, and seek support from professionals or support groups.

What are the signs of a narcissistic relationship?

—Signs of a narcissistic relationship include manipulation, lack of empathy, emotional abuse, gaslighting, and an imbalance of power. It's important to trust your gut instincts and seek help if you suspect you're in a narcissistic relationship.

Can I trust myself to make better choices in relationships after experiencing narcissistic abuse?

—Yes, it's possible to trust yourself again after narcissistic abuse. It takes time, self-reflection, and learning from past experiences. Working with a therapist or counselor can also help in rebuilding self-trust and making healthier choices.

How can I develop discernment in relationships?

—Developing discernment in relationships involves slowing down and being deliberate in our choices. It means listening to our intuition, setting and enforcing boundaries, and being aware of red flags or abusive behaviors.

How can I avoid falling into trauma bonding in relationships?

—To avoid trauma bonding, it's important to educate yourself about narcissistic behavior and patterns. Seek support from professionals or support groups, practice self-care, and establish boundaries to protect yourself from further harm.

00:00Intro: Discernment is crucial in relationships, just like prioritizing our physical health.

02:55Chemistry and connection can be dangerous words in narcissistic relationships.

05:52Loss is optional, but choosing love and connection is part of the human experience.

07:41Developing discernment means slowing down, being deliberate, and paying attention to red flags.

09:59Excusing toxic behavior and not being discerning about who we let into our lives is common, but we need to prioritize emotional safety.

11:13Healing from narcissistic abuse is possible but requires time and self-reflection.

14:09Establishing healthier boundaries is crucial in healing and creating healthier connections.