🔑Confidence and joy are the keys to authentic sexual well-being.
🧠The dual control model of sexual response involves the accelerator and brake mechanisms in our brains.
🚪The door to authentic sexual well-being is constructed by our life experiences and culture.
❤️Loving and accepting our bodies and desires is essential for sexual well-being.
🔍Self-reflection and self-compassion can help us unlock the door to our authentic sexual well-being.
What is the dual control model of sexual response?
—The dual control model explains how our brain has an accelerator and a brake mechanism that determine our sexual arousal. The accelerator responds to sexual cues and stimuli, while the brake inhibits or dampens sexual response.
Why is it important to love and accept our bodies?
—Loving and accepting our bodies is crucial for our sexual well-being because it allows us to feel more confident and joyful about our sexuality. It helps us overcome societal and cultural pressures and promote a positive body image.
How can self-reflection and self-compassion help unlock authentic sexual well-being?
—Self-reflection and self-compassion allow us to understand and process our past experiences, traumas, and societal conditioning that may have affected our sexual well-being. By being kind and understanding towards ourselves, we can begin healing and embracing our authentic sexuality.
Can the keys to authentic sexual well-being be different for everyone?
—Yes, the keys to authentic sexual well-being can vary for each person. What is important is to find strategies and practices that promote confidence, joy, and self-acceptance in our own sexual experiences.
How can we improve our confidence and joy in our sexuality?
—Some evidence-based strategies include practicing self-compassion, challenging societal norms and expectations, seeking therapy or professional support, engaging in open communication with partners, and exploring and understanding our own desires and boundaries.
00:23Emily Nagoski introduces herself as a sex educator and shares the importance of feeling normal and accepting oneself in terms of sexuality.
02:36She explains the dual control model of sexual response, which involves the accelerator and brake mechanisms in our brains.
09:53Nagoski introduces the keys to authentic sexual well-being: confidence and joy.
12:23She suggests two evidence-based strategies for increasing confidence and joy: standing in front of a mirror and writing down positive observations about one's body, and visualizing a door to unlock self-acceptance and compassion.
13:38Nagoski provides alternative options for those who struggle with body acceptance, including finding a calm state of mind and focusing on self-compassion and reflection.
