🦸♂️Recognize the early signs of aggressive conversation through tone of voice and word choice.
🔍Be aware of the 'so-you're-saying' trap and clarify any mischaracterizations of your statements.
🌳Use concrete examples to make your arguments more persuasive and relatable.
🔥Identify and address hidden presuppositions to avoid being swayed into defending positions you don't actually hold.
🚧Slow down the tempo of the conversation and address one point at a time to avoid feeling overwhelmed.
How can I recognize if someone is using subtle tricks to bully me in a conversation?
—Pay attention to their tone of voice, word choice, and any indications that they are putting the blame on you. Recognizing these signs early can help you prepare and respond strategically.
What should I do if someone mischaracterizes my statements or oversimplifies my arguments?
—Politely and calmly clarify your original statement, explaining what you actually meant. Avoid being defensive and repeat yourself if necessary.
Are concrete examples necessary in persuasive arguments?
—Using concrete examples can make your arguments more relatable and emotionally impactful. They help to illustrate your point and make it easier for others to understand and connect with your perspective.
How can I avoid falling into the 'so-you're-saying' trap?
—Listen carefully to the question and identify any mischaracterizations or oversimplifications. Politely correct the misinterpretation and reiterate your original point to ensure your message is accurately understood.
What should I do if I feel overwhelmed in a heated discussion?
—Take a moment to pause and collect your thoughts before responding. Slow down the tempo of the conversation, address one point at a time, and focus on maintaining a calm and composed demeanor.
00:00This video analyzes a conversation between Cathy Newman and Jordan Peterson to provide insights on handling conversational bullying.
01:24Recognize early signs of aggression, such as tone of voice and word choice, to prepare yourself for a potential attack.
01:55Beware of the 'so-you're-saying' trap, where your statements are oversimplified or mischaracterized. Clarify your original point to avoid being trapped in defending positions you don't hold.
08:45Use visual imagery and concrete examples to make your arguments more persuasive and relatable.
09:24Pay attention to hidden presuppositions and address them to prevent others from assuming your beliefs.
09:56Slow down the tempo of the conversation and tackle one question or point at a time to avoid feeling overwhelmed.
10:02Avoid strawmanning the other person's ideas and focus on truly engaging with their real points.
10:38Show the other person that you are truly engaging with their ideas and find common ground to build upon.
